Sadly, the shepherd keeps losing his sheep. The sheep are miserable, have lost faith they can do anything to rectify their situation, and have relinquished control. The only option is to go munch on the grass on the other side of the fence.
Don’t worry eights, you’re not all poo flinging monkeys. You just act like it sometimes. Remember what feels like closeness to you feels like conflict to others. When you try to get to know someone better they feel bullied by you.